Getting Past a Break Up of Love or Friendship

The emotional pain that hits us when those who we trust the most offend, hurt or betray us is incredible, long-lasting and often builds into an obstacle that prevents us from moving forward in life. Sometimes, reconciliation spells don't work. Other times, it's just not meant to be. And occasionally you simply need to get past the pain of breaking up with a lover, a friend or a family member. Below are some workings you can do to move past the emotional pain of a break up.

Parting Ways Spell - After a Break Up
Too often, the emotional charge surrounding a break up will color the true experiences we had with someone. This can affect future relationships we have with people when we unjustly hold them accountable for the past actions of others. The purpose of this spell is to simply let go and allow your former friend or lover to follow their path in life, and to focus on the good things you shared, as well as purge the negative memories from your system. This is a healthy spell to do after a lover has broken up with you, or you've had to push a friend out of your life.

Supplies needed:

• Blessing Oil
• Van Van Oil
• Lavender flowers
• Salt
• A photo of you
• A photo of your former lover or friend
• a lemon
• a knife
• a white figural candle representing you (of the appropriate gender)
• a black figural candle representing your former lover or friend (of the appropriate gender)

Take your photo and write your name 7 times, turn the paper 1/4 turn clockwise and cross the block of your names with "I love and heal myself". "5-spot" your photo with Blessing oil by dabbing a bit on the four corners of the photo and one in the center. Put a pinch of lavender flowers on your photo, then fold the photo in half toward yourself. Turn it 1/4 turn clockwise and fold it in half again toward yourself. Repeat one more time for a total of three folds. Place this prepared name-paper aside.

Take the photo of your former lover or friend. Write their name out 7 times. Turn the paper 1/4 turn counter-clockwise, and cross the written block of text with "I release you from my life" 7 times. Dab some Van Van Oil on the photo in a "5-spot" pattern, saying "I cut ties with you and release you to the 4 corners of the earth. Your path leads you away from me, and you no longer hold any power over me, nor does any connection exist between us any longer!" Put a pinch of salt on the photo to gently cleanse their influence out of your life. Then fold the photo in half away from you. Turn it 1/4 turn counter-clockwise and fold it away from you once more. Repeat this one more time for a total of 3 folds. Set this aside.

Take the white figural candle that represents you and carve your name into it. On the other side of the candle write "Blessed and healed". Dress the candle with Blessing Oil, stroking the oil toward yourself to invoke blessings and healing into your life. Set this on your working surface, to the left of center on top of your prepared name-paper, facing toward the left. Now take the black figural candle and write your former lover's name on the candle. On the other side of the candle write "I cut ties with you". Dress this candle with Van Van Oil to cleanse away the negativity that this person brought into your life - stroke the oil away from you as you dress it. Place this candle to the right of center, on top of the name-paper for your ex, facing toward the right.

You should now have two candles, sitting atop their respective name-papers, facing away from one another. (Leave a little space between them - they should not be touching.)

Light your candle saying "May the light of God the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost bless me every day of my life. Heavenly Father burn away the bitterness of unkind words. May the tears that I've already shed cleanse away the pain and baptize me into a new life of peace, love and tranquility. Protect me, Lord. Guide me, and may my future be filled with blessings and love."

Light your ex-lover or friend's candle saying "I release you (person's name). Your fate leads you elsewhere, far away from here and out of my life. I cut ties with you. You no longer are a part of my life and I deliver you into the hands of God. May he do with you as He sees fit."

Now, using the knife, cut the lemon in half and say "With the cutting edge of this knife may the sour fruit that was born out of our relationship squeeze you out of my life forever! AMEN!" Now squeeze the lemon juice out of the fruit in the shape of a line that is drawn between the two figural candles - an impenetrable wall of clear-cutting power.

Finally, move the figural candles away from one another little by little over the course of the next hour being careful to not burn yourself. Make sure you move the name-papers too so they stay under the candles. When the candles are finally about a foot apart, let them burn all the way down. Take the remnants of your candle and name-paper and bury them in your backyard to keep the blessings in your life. Take the remnants of your ex-lover or ex-friend's candle and name-paper, and throw them into a river that runs out of town. As the water in that river flows out of your town, so shall that person flow out of your life.

Love Uncrossing Baths - to let go of pain and recover your self-esteem
After a love relationship has ended, there is a lot of emotional baggage that sticks around. One of the best things to do at that point is a series of Love Uncrossing baths. Love Uncrossing baths are unique in that they are luxuriating, soaking baths. The intent is to sit in the bath and allow the herbs to work their magic to drain the negative emotional charge from past relationship pains away from you, and at the same time, allow their energy to restore your sense of "lovability" and self-worth. I usually recommend a full regime of 13 baths in a row, but you can do fewer if you really apply yourself. Here's how they are done.

Supplies needed:

• Love Uncrossing Herb Bath
• Bathtub
• A clean white towel
• A love uncrossing jumbo candle (half red, half black)
• Love Uncrossing Oil
• Salt
• a coffee cup
• water
• strainer
  

Start by taking the jumbo candle and cutting the tip off of it. Turn it upside down and carve a new tip out of the butt of the candle. On the black part of the candle carve "Release the pain". On the red part of the candle carve "I am lovable" or "I love again". Dress the candle with Love Uncrossing Oil, stroking away from yourself on the black part of the candle, and toward yourself on the red part of the candle. The same oil can be used for both parts because it is designed with both magical functions in mind. Set it in a candle holder and place it on the side of the tub where it won't catch anything on fire.

Draw a nice warm bath.

Boil some water. Fill up a large coffee cup with half a packet of Love Uncrossing Herb Bath blend. Pour the boiling water over the herbs and allow them to sit, releasing their essences into the water. Add a pinch of salt to the water. After about 10 min, take your coffee cup of herb infusion into the bathroom. Pour the herb concoction into the bath through the strainer in order to remove all herbs so that you're not marinating in potpourri while you bathe.

Disrobe, light your candle, and slip into the bath. As you lay in the bath, pray to God that your pain be taken away, that He help you release the suffering from the past, and that he illuminate your mind to see the wisdom that you did learn in that relationship. Do so in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, Amen.

Now, sit in that bath and contemplate your past relationship. Attempt to understand what you learned about yourself in that relationship. The trick to this really working is to remember that it is an exercise in self-forgiveness, forgiveness of the other party, and that it isn't about placing blame - it's about moving on. What were the good things you liked? Hold on to those. What were the bad things you didn't like, or that hurt? Let those dissipate into the bath water. Finally, finish up by focusing on your good qualities, what makes you a good lover and a good partner, as well as what you want to experience in your next relationship.

When you are done bathing, stand up in the bathtub, squeegee the excess water off of your body stroking from your head down to your feet and finish by crossing your arms across your chest, then quickly uncrossing them and flinging them open saying "reMOVE this condition from me!" Repeat that motion a total of three times.

Step out of the bath, collect a small cup of the used bath water and set it aside. Let the rest drain out of the tub. Towel off. (this is one of the few baths you can towel dry after - since the magical effect is done while soaking IN the water). Dress in clean clothes and take your cup of used bath water outside. Throw it to the west toward the setting sun (preferably into a crossroads) and walk away without looking back. When you return to your bathroom, pinch out the flame from the candle and reuse it next time you bathe. On the last bath, you should let it burn all the way down. You can also wear the Love Uncrossing Oil as a personal fragrance during the time when you are focusing on this work.

This is a good bath ceremony to do before doing major love drawing work to make sure you've addressed all of your relationship issues before jumping into something new.

Black Walnut Bath - to kill any emotions toward a person
Here is the ultimate relationship ending bath - the Black Walnut Bath. Black Walnuts will literally obliterate any emotions you have toward anyone. They put you back in a neutral emotional place which is really where you want to be once you've moved past a relationship.

Black Walnuts still in their fruit pods are traditionally used for this bath. The fruits have a very dark juice in them that will absolutely stain everything in sight, so this bath is done outdoors in a metal wash tub, not in your nice porcelain indoor tub. Black walnuts can be hard to come by, so you can use English or Persian walnuts instead (the kind you find in a grocery store). The problem is that they aren't as strong and don't have the husk on them, so you'll have to boil them for much longer to get a dark colored liquid in the end.

As an additional note, this bath is performed in the nude outdoors, so it's probably best to do this very late at night where no one will see you, in a rural area where you can walk to a crossroad and not be seen - unless you really don't mind people seeing you walking at night naked.

To prepare the bath:
On the dark moon, put 9 black walnuts, still in their husks in a large pot full of water (2-3 quarts). Bring them to a boil, and continue to cook them until the water is very dark (condensed down to about 1 quart). Remove the walnuts from the water, and add the dark fluid into a larger basin of bath-temperature water. Take the basin outside where you'll be performing your bath.

Outside, set up a large metal washtub on the ground. Light a black candle and set it near where you'll be taking your bath. Disrobe and stand inside the large metal washtub. Now pour the black walnut bath over your head. As you do so, recite a portion of Psalm 51: "Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow." then pray in your own words to release the bonds of your past relationship, obliterate the feelings in your heart and deliver you from the pain and strife of that past partnership. Do so in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost, AMEN!

Squeegee the excess water off of your both working from your head down toward your feet, continuing to pray the 51st Psalm. Air dry.

Now, gather up a bit of the used bathwater and walk nude toward the nearest crossroad and throw that used bathwater into the crossroad over your left shoulder saying "AMEN!" and walk away without looking back. Return to where you bathed, dress in new clean clothes, dump the rest of your bath out on the earth, and gather your belongings and head home. You can continue to burn the black candle on your working surface at home.

You will no longer feel anything at all toward that person. Your emotions will be neutralized and you'll find peace in your heart from then onward.

A Stop Gossip + Hot Foot Spell: a client's experience

I recently prepared a custom spell kit for a client that involved a candle working that was part "stop gossip" and part "hot foot". The intention was to drive an meddling family member out of my client's life and to get them to stop their hateful lies that they were spreading to other family members.

The spell involves taking a black figural candle, carving the mouth out, packing it with STFU! Powder, and wrapping a black string gag around it. Then, the candle is stood on a mini-crossroads of Hot Foot Powder compelling her to get out of the person's life. This is all burned over a prepared name paper for the target. Here are some photos from the spell's progress.


According to my client, the flame split into three separate flames one of which burned at the candle's head, the second somewhere in the middle of the body and the final one at its feet. These are perfect signs for the spell doing exactly what it is supposed to; make the person taste the bitterness of their hateful words and stop gossiping, and then lighting a fire under their feet to get them to go away. The candle popped, crackled and made a lot of noise as it burned, indicating that spirits of the dead were assisting the work. The remains of the candle spell were bundled up in the foil and then thrown into a river that runs out of town over her left shoulder, in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, Amen.

The finished wax drippings look like an ear and an eye, which I interpreted to warn the client to keep an eye and an ear out for any more of her vitriol, and if necessary, follow up with more drastic measures. The client was very pleased with the process and is following up by planting Hot Foot Powder directly in the target's home, as well as lacing gifts with Hot Foot Powder and STFU! Powder and sending them to the family member to directly get these substances on them.

How to Use Hoodoo Condition Oils

Hoodoo Condition Oils - More Than Perfume
Condition Oils, called such because of their applications for specific "conditions" that a person might be experiencing, are a very versatile tool in your magical toolbox. They bring together the power of many herbs and curios in one concentrated potion that can be applied to just about any object for empowerment.

I make my condition oils out of real essential oils, herbal and mineral curios and extend the blends with real almond oil to skin-safe concentrations. While they certainly can be worn as personal fragrances, they have much more varied uses in magic.

Dressing Candles
One of the most typical ways that condition oils are used is in the dressing of candles. By dressing candles, you add the power of the herbs in the condition oil to focus the magical power and intent of your candle spell.

To prepare a candle: hold it in one hand and using a sharp implement (like a chopstick or a coffin nail for nasty spells) carve the intended target's name on one side of the candle. Turn the candle and carve the desired effect on the other side. For a Money Draw Spell, you could use a green candle, carve your name on one side, then "Money Comes to Me Now!" on the other. Next, put a few drops of Money Draw Oil on the fingers of your free hand and rub the oil on the candle. For a Money Draw Spell you want to draw money TO you, so stroke the oil onto the candle TOWARD you. If you were doing a Hot Foot Spell, you could stroke something like GTFO! Oil on the candle AWAY from you - because you intend to drive the target of the spell away from your life. Then burn your candle as you normally would. As the candle burns down, it also burns through the essences that were in the condition oil and adds their energies into the mix.
Glass-Encased Candles: These are tall jar-candles, often known as 7-day candles even though they only really burn for about 5 days. The only way to really add oil to the candle is through the top where the wax is exposed.

Money Stay With Me Spell - using condition oils and a glass-encased candle
For example, if I were doing a "money stay with me" candle spell, I would take a green glass-encased candle, poke three holes into the wax with a bamboo skewer and drip some Secure Finances Oil into the holes. I would then add a pinch of finely powdered herbs known for securing personal finances into the top of the candle (like sassafras or irish moss) as well as a little chunk of pyrite and a little piece of lodestone grit. I'd then lay out 5 gold dollar coins in the shape of a "5-spot" (like the pattern of dots on the "5" side of a die), each dabbed with a little Money Draw Oil. Hold the candle to your heart, pray for money to be drawn to your life from all four directions, and to be secured in your wallet, in your account and for your finances to steadily grow over time - all of this in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, AMEN! Then tap the candle three times on the table top, and set that glass-encased candle right on top of the middle gold dollar coin OR immediately beside it. Burn it all the way down, and when you are done, go out and spend the gold dollars, knowing that they are trained to seek out more money in the world and bring it back to you.

Dressing Name Papers with Condition Oils
Name Papers are magical talismans created using paper, a target's name and a magical intent, to properly target your magical goal. These are usually created on a piece of unprinted brown paper that is torn on all four sides (no mechanically cut edges). On this square of paper, the magical goal is often written 3, 7, or 9 times and then it is crossed an equal number of times with the target's name. I like to draw symbols in the four corners of the name paper as well. Finally, to empower the name paper, pass it through incense smoke, and then dress it in a "5-spot" pattern with your condition oil of choice. The name paper is folded in half 3 times, rotated 1/4 turn in between each fold and it is then either put inside a mojo bag, or under a candle, etc.

Feeding Mojo Bags with Condition Oils
Condition Oils can be used to feed a mojo bag on a weekly basis to keep its energy strong and powerful. For example, if you have a Triple Luck Mojo Bag that you take with you to the casinos on a regular basis, you can feed it Lucky 777 Oil every week on a Thursday (for increasing your luck) to keep the hot streak going. Simply dab some oil in a "5-spot" pattern on the side of the mojo bag and keep it out of sight in your pocket while you play. Condition Oils are a nice alternative from the tradition of using whiskey to feed a mojo bag. They incorporate the power of herbs to keep the mojo strong.

These are just a few ideas for how you can use condition oils in your magical work. The uses really are limited by your own imagination. I've added condition oils to my household cleaners to add their energy to my home and bless it. I've worn them as personal fragrances when I go out to the bars to lure potential mates. I've used them to bless and empower jewelry to make them into powerful protective amulets. I've even used oils to bless and protect my work space to keep away gossip and hateful coworkers. Let your ideas flow and you'll find even more ways to use these powerful magical blends in your own rootwork.