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| Reconciliation spells are best for healing a misunderstanding. |
Factors Determining Success in Reconciliation Spells
Reconciliation spell work is a sticky topic. Most rootworkers won't do it for several reasons. First there are MANY issues that affect the success of a spell. I'll discuss the biggest issues below:
Proximity - Do you live close to one another? If you don't live anywhere near your ex, then your chances for reconciliation are almost impossible. You have to live near one another and you have to be able to visit one another. A healthy long-distance relationship is hard enough to maintain, let alone one that is faltering and falling apart.
Communication - Are you frequently communicating or seeing one another (no, facebook, email and texts don't count)?
In this modern age, clients seem to think that texting and email qualify as communication. Flat out NO! They do not. The whole reason why communication needs to be present by voice or in person, is because your partner can hear the emotional inflection in their voice and can understand clearly how they are feeling. Texts are dry. Emails are emotion-less and easy. Tossing off an email to someone doesn't convey any forethought nor does it indicate care and emotional caring. Communication needs to be either by phone or in person. Additionally, I've been experiencing a phenomenon where the person's ex lives with a parent that cuts off all communication. I'll tell you right now, if your ex is an adult and his or her mommy isn't going to let them talk to you, then they aren't mature enough to hold a relationship in the first place . They probably need to work on their parental issues before dedicating themselves to any kind of relationship.
Nature of the Break Up - Why did the relationship end, and who ended it? This can give you a clue as to whether the relationship is able to be reconciled. Did your girlfriend dump you because you slapped her in the face? Then I don't blame her for leaving you. You need to get some anger management classes and don't bother with any reconciliation work. If there was any kind of violence, reconciliation is OFF THE TABLE. Did your ex leave you because you're controlling, and you've tried working with 17 rootworkers to get them back but none of the spells are working? Perhaps that should make it abundantly clear that you have control issues and you need to work on your own self-esteem and heal the fear that is within your heart. Fear and insecurity are what breed controlling. Did your ex leave you because he went back to his wife? Well, the wife has more rights in the world than you do. She has a religious bound and oath before God to that man - she will win out. That's just the way it works. So think about why the break up happened and see if you've healed those issues first before you seek reconciliation or you won't be able to maintain anything if you DO get back together.
Marital Status - Is your ex still single or are they in a new relationship? Are you two still married? If your ex has moved on to another partner, then don't waste your time. Someone else who they likely view in a healthier light than you is occupying their heart. You're not going to have much success getting in there. Remember you not only have to repair the damage that was done but you then have to rebuild trust - and that's on BIG mountain to get over. If you're still married to your man, that's positive leverage in your favor. You can use your divine oath before God to magically pull him back to you, but keep in mind what I said before about trust and reasons for the break up. Those still need to be healed before reconciliation will really happen.
Emotional State - Is your ex still emotionally open to being with you as a friend or are they utterly repulsed by you?
If your ex said, "I hate you and never want to see your living face again!" then don't waste your time. Moving someone over from hate to love is virtually impossible. If they said, "I miss you and wish we could have worked things out" then you have an opportunity for reconciliation.
Time Elapsed - How long have you two been apart? If your break up happened last week - good, you have a better chance for success. If it happened two years ago - give up. I personally don't like to do reconciliation on a break up that has elapsed 6 months.
Additionally, you're dealing with the hearts of two people who have gone through tremendous emotional upheaval. They are raw, vulnerable and hurt, or angry, isolated and defensive. Remember that reconciliation work is about softening hearts and minds and making people receptive to getting back together. If they are staunchly opposed to it, you're not going to have much success.
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| A reconciliation spell by Dr. E. |
Client writes: "Dr. E. the situation isn't improving! I think the magic failed!!!"
How Long Before I'll See Results?!
I write: "Give it some time, be patient and stop worrying about it!"
1 month later, Client writes: "This was a rip off, your magic failed! I hate you!"
6 months later, Client writes: "OH MY GOD, Dr. E. you're wonderful! I got my man back. All I needed to do was just be patient and stop worrying about it!!!!"
This is classic. What clients seem to forget is that reconciliation work is SLOW STEADY WORK. It is probably the slowest magical work out there to show results. You're dealing with people's free wills, with their emotional baggage and it takes a long time to turn someone from anger to love. So be patient. The best thing you can do with a reconciliation case is to have the spell cast, then walk away and stop worrying incessantly about it. Once you release the NEED for results, you'll finally see them. But constantly fretting, contacting your rootworker on a daily basis because your ex didn't return a text message or going to six different rootworkers because you want faster results, is only going to ruin the work you are doing.
A very wise person once told me "If you feel urgency it really isn't important. And if it really is important, it won't require urgency!" Slowly is holy - relax, turn your mind away from obsessing over the spell work, and go about living your life.
She Cast a Spell on Him! I KNOW it!
I often have women requesting rootwork because they feel their husband's mistress cast a spell on their husband and that's why he's behaving differently. They want me to remove the spell from the husband and someone repair all the damage that has been done. Let's dissect this bit by bit.
1) Curses are actually quite uncommon - Most people are untrained and uneducated when it comes to cursing others, and most don't know the right way to go about it. 9 times out of 10, when I client comes to me convinced they are cursed, they actually aren't. If you have ANY doubt, and you're CONVINCED he's cursed, then slip some Uncrossing Oil into his shampoo or body wash and watch his behavior for a week. If he's still behaving the same, then it isn't a curse. Case closed.
2) His behavior has dramatically changed! This isn't the man I love and know - Of course it isn't because you didn't marry a cheater, he became one for whatever reason. I'd say the vast majority of cases where the man is cheating occur with men going through a mid-life crisis. Their relationships have gone flat, the sex is uninspiring, and they seek to regain an element of macho bravado. They want to feel like studs, so they go seek a new woman to have sex with. Same goes for ladies too. It has nothing to do with curses or spell work, and everything to do with a normal period of evolution in the human mind that happens in the early forties.
3) The damage has already been done - Whether your partner was cursed or not, cheating has taken place and a huge breach of trust has transpired. You need to work on serious forgiveness between the two of you because even if he does come back, you'll need to be ok with what happened in the past or you won't be able to have intimacy and openness in your repaired relationship.