Parting Ways Spell - After a Break Up
Too often, the emotional charge surrounding a break up will color the true experiences we had with someone. This can affect future relationships we have with people when we unjustly hold them accountable for the past actions of others. The purpose of this spell is to simply let go and allow your former friend or lover to follow their path in life, and to focus on the good things you shared, as well as purge the negative memories from your system. This is a healthy spell to do after a lover has broken up with you, or you've had to push a friend out of your life.
- Blessing Oil
- Van Van Oil
- Lavender flowers
- A photo of you
- A photo of your former lover or friend
- a lemon
- a knife
- a white figural candle representing you (of the appropriate gender)
- a black figural candle representing your former lover or friend (of the appropriate gender)
Take the photo of your former lover or friend. Write their name out 7 times. Turn the paper 1/4 turn counter-clockwise, and cross the written block of text with "I release you from my life" 7 times. Dab some Van Van Oil on the photo in a "5-spot" pattern, saying "I cut ties with you and release you to the 4 corners of the earth. Your path leads you away from me, and you no longer hold any power over me, nor does any connection exist between us any longer!" Put a pinch of salt on the photo to gently cleanse their influence out of your life. Then fold the photo in half away from you. Turn it 1/4 turn counter-clockwise and fold it away from you once more. Repeat this one more time for a total of 3 folds. Set this aside.
Take the white figural candle that represents you and carve your name into it. On the other side of the candle write "Blessed and healed". Dress the candle with Blessing Oil, stroking the oil toward yourself to invoke blessings and healing into your life. Set this on your working surface, to the left of center on top of your prepared name-paper, facing toward the left. Now take the black figural candle and write your former lover's name on the candle. On the other side of the candle write "I cut ties with you". Dress this candle with Van Van Oil to cleanse away the negativity that this person brought into your life - stroke the oil away from you as you dress it. Place this candle to the right of center, on top of the name-paper for your ex, facing toward the right.
You should now have two candles, sitting atop their respective name-papers, facing away from one another. (Leave a little space between them - they should not be touching.)
Light your candle saying "May the light of God the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost bless me every day of my life. Heavenly Father burn away the bitterness of unkind words. May the tears that I've already shed cleanse away the pain and baptize me into a new life of peace, love and tranquility. Protect me, Lord. Guide me, and may my future be filled with blessings and love."
Light your ex-lover or friend's candle saying "I release you (person's name). Your fate leads you elsewhere, far away from here and out of my life. I cut ties with you. You no longer are a part of my life and I deliver you into the hands of God. May he do with you as He sees fit."
Now, using the knife, cut the lemon in half and say "With the cutting edge of this knife may the sour fruit that was born out of our relationship squeeze you out of my life forever! AMEN!" Now squeeze the lemon juice out of the fruit in the shape of a line that is drawn between the two figural candles - an impenetrable wall of clear-cutting power.
Finally, move the figural candles away from one another little by little over the course of the next hour being careful to not burn yourself. Make sure you move the name-papers too so they stay under the candles. When the candles are finally about a foot apart, let them burn all the way down. Take the remnants of your candle and name-paper and bury them in your backyard to keep the blessings in your life. Take the remnants of your ex-lover or ex-friend's candle and name-paper, and throw them into a river that runs out of town. As the water in that river flows out of your town, so shall that person flow out of your life.
Love Uncrossing Baths - to let go of pain and recover your self-esteem
After a love relationship has ended, there is a lot of emotional baggage that sticks around. One of the best things to do at that point is a series of Love Uncrossing baths. Love Uncrossing baths are unique in that they are luxuriating, soaking baths. The intent is to sit in the bath and allow the herbs to work their magic to drain the negative emotional charge from past relationship pains away from you, and at the same time, allow their energy to restore your sense of "lovability" and self-worth. I usually recommend a full regime of 13 baths in a row, but you can do fewer if you really apply yourself. Here's how they are done.
- Love Uncrossing Herb Bath
- A clean white towel
- A love uncrossing jumbo candle (half red, half black)
- Love Uncrossing Oil
- a coffee cup
Draw a nice warm bath.
Boil some water. Fill up a large coffee cup with half a packet of Love Uncrossing Herb Bath blend. Pour the boiling water over the herbs and allow them to sit, releasing their essences into the water. Add a pinch of salt to the water. After about 10 min, take your coffee cup of herb infusion into the bathroom. Pour the herb concoction into the bath through the strainer in order to remove all herbs so that you're not marinating in potpourri while you bathe.
Disrobe, light your candle, and slip into the bath. As you lay in the bath, pray to God that your pain be taken away, that He help you release the suffering from the past, and that he illuminate your mind to see the wisdom that you did learn in that relationship. Do so in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, Amen.
Now, sit in that bath and contemplate your past relationship. Attempt to understand what you learned about yourself in that relationship. The trick to this really working is to remember that it is an exercise in self-forgiveness, forgiveness of the other party, and that it isn't about placing blame - it's about moving on. What were the good things you liked? Hold on to those. What were the bad things you didn't like, or that hurt? Let those dissipate into the bath water. Finally, finish up by focusing on your good qualities, what makes you a good lover and a good partner, as well as what you want to experience in your next relationship.
When you are done bathing, stand up in the bathtub, squeegee the excess water off of your body stroking from your head down to your feet and finish by crossing your arms across your chest, then quickly uncrossing them and flinging them open saying "reMOVE this condition from me!" Repeat that motion a total of three times.
Step out of the bath, collect a small cup of the used bath water and set it aside. Let the rest drain out of the tub. Towel off. (this is one of the few baths you can towel dry after - since the magical effect is done while soaking IN the water). Dress in clean clothes and take your cup of used bath water outside. Throw it to the west toward the setting sun (preferably into a crossroads) and walk away without looking back. When you return to your bathroom, pinch out the flame from the candle and reuse it next time you bathe. On the last bath, you should let it burn all the way down. You can also wear the Love Uncrossing Oil as a personal fragrance during the time when you are focusing on this work.
This is a good bath ceremony to do before doing major love drawing work to make sure you've addressed all of your relationship issues before jumping into something new.
Black Walnut Bath - to kill any emotions toward a person
Here is the ultimate relationship ending bath - the Black Walnut Bath. Black Walnuts will literally obliterate any emotions you have toward anyone. They put you back in a neutral emotional place which is really where you want to be once you've moved past a relationship.
Black Walnuts still in their fruit pods are traditionally used for this bath. The fruits have a very dark juice in them that will absolutely stain everything in sight, so this bath is done outdoors in a metal wash tub, not in your nice porcelain indoor tub. Black walnuts can be hard to come by, so you can use English or Persian walnuts instead (the kind you find in a grocery store). The problem is that they aren't as strong and don't have the husk on them, so you'll have to boil them for much longer to get a dark colored liquid in the end.
As an additional note, this bath is performed in the nude outdoors, so it's probably best to do this very late at night where no one will see you, in a rural area where you can walk to a crossroad and not be seen - unless you really don't mind people seeing you walking at night naked.
To prepare the bath:
On the dark moon, put 9 black walnuts, still in their husks in a large pot full of water (2-3 quarts). Bring them to a boil, and continue to cook them until the water is very dark (condensed down to about 1 quart). Remove the walnuts from the water, and add the dark fluid into a larger basin of bath-temperature water. Take the basin outside where you'll be performing your bath.
Outside, set up a large metal washtub on the ground. Light a black candle and set it near where you'll be taking your bath. Disrobe and stand inside the large metal washtub. Now pour the black walnut bath over your head. As you do so, recite a portion of Psalm 51: "Cleanse me with hyssop, and I will be clean; wash me, and I will be whiter than snow." then pray in your own words to release the bonds of your past relationship, obliterate the feelings in your heart and deliver you from the pain and strife of that past partnership. Do so in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Ghost, AMEN!
Squeegee the excess water off of your both working from your head down toward your feet, continuing to pray the 51st Psalm. Air dry.
Now, gather up a bit of the used bathwater and walk nude toward the nearest crossroad and throw that used bathwater into the crossroad over your left shoulder saying "AMEN!" and walk away without looking back. Return to where you bathed, dress in new clean clothes, dump the rest of your bath out on the earth, and gather your belongings and head home. You can continue to burn the black candle on your working surface at home.
You will no longer feel anything at all toward that person. Your emotions will be neutralized and you'll find peace in your heart from then onward.