Monday, January 25, 2010

Making Reconciliation Spells REALLY Work

Hands-down, the most common client request for hoodoo is for a reconciliation spell. This is no real surprise when you think about what a vast and complex landscape human emotions can be, and how challenging it is to make a relationship really work in this modern age. We are taught dysfunctional ways to behave in relationships from television, glamor magazines, movies and even from our friends and family. So when the relationship goes sour, or breaks up all together, it makes sense to turn to a conjure doctor to fix the situation.

This, however, is a misconception. Yes, a conjure doctor can help you mend your relationship. Yes, we can help soften hearts and open minds and get the two of you to reconcile. BUT, contrary to popular opinion, we are NOT miracle workers.

So how, then, should you approach reconciliation spell work in order to get effective results with your hoodoo? Let me share what I've learned over the years from personal and professional experience.

Communication is Number ONE!
My teacher taught me that reconciliation spells are much more likely to success if the people are talking to one another. I'm going to take that one step further and say that reconciliation spells will ONLY succeed if the people involved are talking to one another. Otherwise, there really is little chance for the two of you to come back together and heal the wounds of the past. That means, tuck your tail, apologize for what went wrong and genuinely try to mend things. Let go of resentments, start anew and give the other person the benefit of the doubt. And if it has been longer than two years since you've spoken to the individual your chances for success are pretty much none. But, for those of you who are speaking to your lover, here's a great spell to get the lines of communication going.

Personal Letter Dressed with Powders for Reconciliation

You'll need:
Write a letter to your ex sincerely apologizing to them if you've wronged them, or forgiving them if they've wronged you. Be heart-felt and honest and don't blame them for anything. Just focus on the love you have for one another and how much you miss the great times you had together. Sign the letter or card and make sure the ink has dried.

Flip the letter or card over and sprinkle some Success and Eloquence Powder and some Reconciliation Powder on the card. As you do so, call out your ex's name and pray to God in your own words for his heart to be softened, for his mind to be opened and for him to remember the love you have together, and feel desire in his heart to call you and speak with you in return. Now run your four fingers down the card in wavy lines - like snake tracks - and say "in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, AMEN!" Shake off the excess powder, then give the letter a flick with your finger to snap off any residue. Fold up the letter, put it in an envelope and seal the envelope with a little dab of your urine. Mail the letter to your lover and when he opens it, he'll be dominated by your urine, affected by the Reconciliation Powder to want to be with you again, and then compelled by the Success and Eloquence Powder to want to talk to you.

Humility and Sincerity Are KEY!
All too often, I have clients come to me and say "I want my boyfriend that broke up with me back, but I want HIM to make the first move and I want HIM to apologize to me!" or some variation of that theme. Let me tell you right now that the reason you two haven't reconciled your love is because OF YOU! Stubbornness and pride serve no role in reconciliation work. Let go of your pride, let go of your stubborn need to be right, and stop this whole cat and mouse game of not talking to him until he talks to you, etc. All it does is feed into the dysfunctional mind games that Hollywood have taught us are a part of any relationship. I'm here to tell you that the sooner you drop that behavior and those requirements the more likely you are going to succeed in getting your partner back.

Forgiveness Goes Two Ways
In order to go from break up to make up, you'll need to master the art of apologies and forgiveness. But remember that forgiveness goes two ways - and by that I mean that you have to forgive the other person AND FORGIVE YOURSELF for what happened. Holding on to guilt or resentment are only ways of closing off your heart and will ultimately fight against any positive spell outcome.

I always recommend to my clients that they should take up some kind of journaling or way of processing their emotions. Shoot, even therapy is something we should all sign up for after a break up - it helps you work through your feelings, learn your lessons, grow and evolve instead of just placing blame, vilifying the other person and walking away from the relationship with nothing to show for it.

Make your journal a magical one. Get yourself a nice spiral bound notebook from the local book store. Into it, place a photo of you and your ex together when you were happy. Then, you can use some Love Uncrossing Products to unravel the emotional knots that you built up in your relationship using the following spell:

Dr. E.'s Love Uncrossing Spell
You'll need:
You will perform this spell every afternoon or evening for 7 consecutive days. Make a strong infusion of 1 package of Love Uncrossing Herb Baths by pouring boiling water over the herbs in a coffee cup. Allow the herbs to sit for about 10 minutes. Strain out the herbs. Draw yourself a nice bathtub full of water. Add in the cup of infused liquid to the bath.

Now, carefully using a knife, cut the tip off of the candle, turn it upside down and carve a new tip on the butt of the candle - digging out the wick so you'll be able to light it. On the black half of the candle carve in mirror-writing "Remove my condition". On the red part carve in normal writing "I am worthy of love". Dress the entire candle with Love Uncrossing Oil - stroke away from you on the black part, stroke toward you on the red part. Place this in a candle holder and set it next to the bathtub. Light the candle.

Disrobe and enter the bath. As you soak in the bathtub, state "Wash me with hyssop and I shall be clean in the name of Jesus Christ, AMEN!" Now relax in the tub and mentally go through any of the suffering, anger or resentment from the break up. Focus on forgiving yourself and forgiving your ex. See if you discover any emotional behavioral patterns that need to be healed or changed. Write these down in your journal during and after the bath is done. Finally, imagine all of the pain and anger being leeched out of your body by the herbs in the bath, and then imagine glowing pink light entering your body - replacing the resentment with love, the anger with acceptance and the distrust with loving trust.

When you are done, stand up, cross your arms across your chest and then quickly uncross them by wiping diagonally from shoulder to hip across your chest saying aloud "reMOVE this condition from me!" - repeat that three times. Step out of the bath and lightly towel off. Scoop up a cupful of the used bath water and allow the rest to drain away.

Once you are dry, anoint your feet, wrists, neck and heart with Love Uncrossing Oil. Dress in light colored clothes and walk to the crossroads (4-way crossroad). Toss that used bath water over your left shoulder into the intersection toward the east saying "AMEN!" and walk away without looking back. When you get home, pinch or snuff out the candle and use it for the next bath.

Over the course of the week, keep your journal with you and write down any thoughts or realizations that come to you about your relationship, your negative behaviors or patterns or lessons you've learned. The effect of those baths will last up to and beyond a month.

Reconciliation Spells Take Time
Sometimes clients think that a reconciliation spell will be a "one shot, bang, and you're fixed" kind of job. I'm here to tell you that reconciliation spell work in a long haul, and it is a slow and steady progress that you're looking for. Trust takes a long time to grow, and one moment to destroy. You now have to go through the process of rebuilding trust - and that takes time, honesty and communication. Reconciliation spells should aim at softening the hearts and opening the minds of those involved.

Reconciliation Honey Jar Spell
This spell uses sweeteners to soften up their attitude toward you and to remember the sweetness you had together.

You'll need:
  • A jar of honey with a metal lid
  • A photo of you
  • A photo of your ex
  • 3 gold-eyed needles
  • 2 balm of gilead buds that are stuck together
  • orange peel
  • 1 package of Reconciliation Powder
  • 1 bottle of Reconciliation Oil
  • 9 pink candles

Take the photo of your ex and put a dab of Reconciliation oil on each corner and the middle of the photo. Do the same with your photo. Now put a dab of honey on the ex's photo's mouth. Then stick your photo to it so that the mouths are touching. As you do so state aloud your ex's name and say "You remember the sweetness of my kisses and we only speak sweet words to one another from now on!"

Then stick the three needles through the papers (in and out to hold them) so they are stuck together. Make sure the three needles are parallel. As you do so, state "We are joined at the hip, joined at the head and joined at the heart. In Jesus' name I call you back to me for it is our destiny to be together again! AMEN!"

Now push the papers down into the honey and when you pull your finger out it will have honey on it. Lick the honey off and say "As this honey is sweet on my tongue, so too shall I be sweet on your mind, sweet on your tongue and sweet in your heart!" Add in the balm of gilead, the orange peel and three pinches of Reconciliation Powder. Cap off the jar.

Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, you will do the following: Take 1 pink candle and carve "reconcile our love" onto the candle. Dress it with Reconciliation Oil - stroking the oil toward you. Dust it with Reconciliation Powder. Then melt the butt of the candle enough that you can stick it to the lid of the honey jar. Light the candle and let it burn all the way down. As it burns pause for a moment and pray to God to illuminate your ex's mind, to draw him back to you and to remind him of the good times, the love and the wonderful joy you shared together. Do this for three consecutive weeks and you should see steady improvement in your ex's disposition toward you. You can continue to work the jar with pink candles until they return to you if you like.

Draw Them Back - Don't TORMENT Them
One of the keys to really winning in the arena of love is to become "magnetic" instead of being "electric". The best way I can describe this is by observing those two phenomena. Magnets just naturally draw things to them by an indescribable, invisible but powerful force. Electricity sparks, lashes out, strikes and jolts. People who are confident in themselves, love themselves and see a relationship as an addition to their life are magnetic - they draw lovers to them and they are desirable to be around. People who lack confidence in themselves, don't think they are worthy of love or limit their love to "he's the only one that will ever love me" are electric - they cling like static to others out of desperation, their love is obsessive, unhealthy, sharp, spikey and jolting. You should strive to cultivate magnetic appeal with reconciliation spells - not electrical lashing out.

I've seen a real pattern, lately, where clients approach me asking for The Intranquility Spell against their ex to bring him back - right off the bat. This immediately raises red flags for me as a rootworker because it tells me they are being "electric" not "magnetic" and their chances for reconciliation are very low unless they change their tactics.

I will say, once and for all here, that The Intranquility Spell is not the solution for reconciliation in most cases. Its uses are rare and selective and it really only works on certain types of people. Usually it results in tormenting the lover which ends up driving them mad, not back to you. Again... change your tactics. Try a honey jar, or a lodestone spell - but don't beat them over the head or you'll only drive them away.


Unknown said...

I really love the person I will focus my spell on and therefore feel hesitant trying the Intraquility Spell but would like that added incentive to be included in my spells. I have read that adding a restless powder to love spells can do the trick in a gentler fashion. Can restless powder or oil be added to any of the reconciliation spells that you have included?

Dr. E. said...

Seth: Restless powder does basically the same thing as intranquility. I do not recommend it. Do the spells above as I wrote them - no variations.

Unknown said...

Hi Dr. E , I lost my love few days ago , I did something wery stupid, I wonder if that spell with pink candles can make her come back to me? I really regreat what I did beacouse we ware perfect together .

Dr. E. said...

Hi August. It really depends on a lot of factors. If you messed up you had better start with an apology and go from there. Remember reconciliation spells are VERY iffy and depend on a lot of factors. A reading is usually a good idea to find out if the spell work will help.

Unknown said...

Hi again , I will give that spell a try, but I dont know what this is: 2 balm of gilead buds that are stuck together , where can i get this? And what is this , can´t find it on google translate..

Unknown said...

In honey jar spell, can we fold the photo to put in jar???? does the photos have to be of same kind or can they be different size meaning full shot versus head shot type????

Dr. E. said...

Balm of gilead is an herb.

You can fold the photos. It doesn't matter if they match in size or not. It's best if you can get photos where the person's upper torso is in the picture so that you can also affect their heart and mind.

Unknown said...

thanks Dr. E. will sure try this...

Unknown said...

I made up my own jar using maple syrup, balm of gilead, deer's tongue, cinnamon, althea (for healing of wounds) whole cloves, rose petals, rosemary, sage, and catnip and a little slippery elm (to stop some gossiping that was affecting our relationship).

I read it was unwise to put an article of mine in there with his... (i put my hair with a piece of his worn shirt) because it will make me obsessed and negate some of the spell work.

Its definitely wisest for me to have him off of my mind during this 'healing' time.. do u think i should take my hair out of the jar?

thanks so much for your awesome blog!!! xo

Anonymous said...

I would love to know the answer to Shakti's question as well. I heard putting your p. concerns in with the spells will make you become obsessed as well (i.e Intranquil spirit, honey jar, ect for love). I really respect your knowledge though so I am being pulled in two directions here.

I know you don't give out free spell advice but I do have a question.I am not sure if you would consider it free spell advice so I am just going to ask anyway.

Can I still follow your honey jar spell if I am trying to sweeten a FRIEND? I am wondering if all the same things would be used?


Dr. E. said...

If a spell is for reconciliation you need to have items of both people in the jar as you are bringing TWO people together, not just one person. If you think only one person is the problem and the reason why the relationship fell apart, you are mistaken. It takes two to tango and it takes two to fix a relationship. Your personal concerns should be in there too.

Never put your personal concerns in an Intranquil Spirit spell - THAT will make you obsessed. Then again the Intranquil Spirit spell is usually the wrong approach to reconciliation anyway. I have other blog posts explaining that.

You can use sweetening spells like honey jars on friendships too - you would just use herbs for friendly love like clove and lavender instead of lovage and rose.

Hoodoonewbie said...

Can this work for a jobs? Like getting a specific employer to think of me sweetly and hire me. So instead of honey on the mouth, do I put honey on the forehead of the employer's picture and stick my picture with the needles? What kind of herbs do I put into the honey jar?
Do I have to use Reconcilation oil? Can I put job oil?

mi said...

Hi... we are wanting to know how to discard our candles now that they are burned out.

Unknown said...

Dr. E., Am I suppose to do all the spells you listed above in your article or do I just choose one spell to cast?? Also, where can I pick up the oils, powders, candles & herbs that you mentioned above?? Thank you!!

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