Reconciliation Spells - Things Every Client Should Consider

Reconciliation spells are best for healing
a misunderstanding.

About 75% of the client work I do is some type of Reconciliation Spell work. It seems that many people are having relationship issues and immediately run to a rootworker to "get their man back". In this article I'm going to discuss the recurring issues that I see with clients and point out things that every client seeking reconciliation work should consider.

Factors Determining Success in Reconciliation Spells

Reconciliation spell work is a sticky topic. Most rootworkers won't do it for several reasons. First there are MANY issues that affect the success of a spell. I'll discuss the biggest issues below:

Proximity - Do you live close to one another? If you don't live anywhere near your ex, then your chances for reconciliation are almost impossible. You have to live near one another and you have to be able to visit one another. A healthy long-distance relationship is hard enough to maintain, let alone one that is faltering and falling apart.

Communication - Are you frequently communicating or seeing one another (no, facebook, email and texts don't count)?

In this modern age, clients seem to think that texting and email qualify as communication. Flat out NO! They do not. The whole reason why communication needs to be present by voice or in person, is because your partner can hear the emotional inflection in their voice and can understand clearly how they are feeling. Texts are dry. Emails are emotion-less and easy. Tossing off an email to someone doesn't convey any forethought nor does it indicate care and emotional caring. Communication needs to be either by phone or in person. Additionally, I've been experiencing a phenomenon where the person's ex lives with a parent that cuts off all communication. I'll tell you right now, if your ex is an adult and his or her mommy isn't going to let them talk to you, then they aren't mature enough to hold a relationship in the first place . They probably need to work on their parental issues before dedicating themselves to any kind of relationship.

Nature of the Break Up - Why did the relationship end, and who ended it? This can give you a clue as to whether the relationship is able to be reconciled. Did your girlfriend dump you because you slapped her in the face? Then I don't blame her for leaving you. You need to get some anger management classes and don't bother with any reconciliation work. If there was any kind of violence, reconciliation is OFF THE TABLE. Did your ex leave you because you're controlling, and you've tried working with 17 rootworkers to get them back but none of the spells are working? Perhaps that should make it abundantly clear that you have control issues and you need to work on your own self-esteem and heal the fear that is within your heart. Fear and insecurity are what breed controlling. Did your ex leave you because he went back to his wife? Well, the wife has more rights in the world than you do. She has a religious bound and oath before God to that man - she will win out. That's just the way it works. So think about why the break up happened and see if you've healed those issues first before you seek reconciliation or you won't be able to maintain anything if you DO get back together.

Marital Status - Is your ex still single or are they in a new relationship? Are you two still married? If your ex has moved on to another partner, then don't waste your time. Someone else who they likely view in a healthier light than you is occupying their heart. You're not going to have much success getting in there. Remember you not only have to repair the damage that was done but you then have to rebuild trust - and that's on BIG mountain to get over. If you're still married to your man, that's positive leverage in your favor. You can use your divine oath before God to magically pull him back to you, but keep in mind what I said before about trust and reasons for the break up. Those still need to be healed before reconciliation will really happen.

Emotional State - Is your ex still emotionally open to being with you as a friend or are they utterly repulsed by you?

If your ex said, "I hate you and never want to see your living face again!" then don't waste your time. Moving someone over from hate to love is virtually impossible. If they said, "I miss you and wish we could have worked things out" then you have an opportunity for reconciliation.

Time Elapsed - How long have you two been apart? If your break up happened last week - good, you have a better chance for success. If it happened two years ago - give up. I personally don't like to do reconciliation on a break up that has elapsed 6 months.

Additionally, you're dealing with the hearts of two people who have gone through tremendous emotional upheaval. They are raw, vulnerable and hurt, or angry, isolated and defensive. Remember that reconciliation work is about softening hearts and minds and making people receptive to getting back together. If they are staunchly opposed to it, you're not going to have much success.

A reconciliation spell by Dr. E.

Client writes: "Dr. E. the situation isn't improving! I think the magic failed!!!"
How Long Before I'll See Results?!

I write: "Give it some time, be patient and stop worrying about it!"

1 month later, Client writes: "This was a rip off, your magic failed! I hate you!"

6 months later, Client writes: "OH MY GOD, Dr. E. you're wonderful! I got my man back. All I needed to do was just be patient and stop worrying about it!!!!"

This is classic. What clients seem to forget is that reconciliation work is SLOW STEADY WORK. It is probably the slowest magical work out there to show results. You're dealing with people's free wills, with their emotional baggage and it takes a long time to turn someone from anger to love. So be patient. The best thing you can do with a reconciliation case is to have the spell cast, then walk away and stop worrying incessantly about it. Once you release the NEED for results, you'll finally see them. But constantly fretting, contacting your rootworker on a daily basis because your ex didn't return a text message or going to six different rootworkers because you want faster results, is only going to ruin the work you are doing.

A very wise person once told me "If you feel urgency it really isn't important. And if it really is important, it won't require urgency!" Slowly is holy - relax, turn your mind away from obsessing over the spell work, and go about living your life.

She Cast a Spell on Him! I KNOW it!

I often have women requesting rootwork because they feel their husband's mistress cast a spell on their husband and that's why he's behaving differently. They want me to remove the spell from the husband and someone repair all the damage that has been done. Let's dissect this bit by bit.

1) Curses are actually quite uncommon - Most people are untrained and uneducated when it comes to cursing others, and most don't know the right way to go about it. 9 times out of 10, when I client comes to me convinced they are cursed, they actually aren't. If you have ANY doubt, and you're CONVINCED he's cursed, then slip some Uncrossing Oil into his shampoo or body wash and watch his behavior for a week. If he's still behaving the same, then it isn't a curse. Case closed.

 2) His behavior has dramatically changed! This isn't the man I love and know - Of course it isn't because you didn't marry a cheater, he became one for whatever reason. I'd say the vast majority of cases where the man is cheating occur with men going through a mid-life crisis. Their relationships have gone flat, the sex is uninspiring, and they seek to regain an element of macho bravado. They want to feel like studs, so they go seek a new woman to have sex with. Same goes for ladies too. It has nothing to do with curses or spell work, and everything to do with a normal period of evolution in the human mind that happens in the early forties. 

3) The damage has already been done - Whether your partner was cursed or not, cheating has taken place and a huge breach of trust has transpired. You need to work on serious forgiveness between the two of you because even if he does come back, you'll need to be ok with what happened in the past or you won't be able to have intimacy and openness in your repaired relationship.

The Best Cases for Reconciliation Spells

Reconciliation spells are really best employed when a misunderstanding has taken place and you are trying to smooth over arguments and bring the two of you back together. Another good use of reconciliation spells are for relationships that have lost their passion; they can be used to rekindle the sex and intimacy. Reconciliations spells are best done steadily and slowly over time. For this reason I prefer to employ either jar spells with honey or sugar, or mojo bags that can be carried in conjunction with deployment of magical powders in letters, gifts or on clothing. Feeding your ex sexual fluids is also a good idea (hidden in cooked foods) to keep them hooked on you. One off spells can help with critical matters, but for best results, remember: Slow and Steady Wins the Reconciliation Race!

Reconciliation Hoodoo Products and Reconciliation Spell Ideas

We just updated our site to include a Reconciliation Hoodoo Products page describing our entire line of Reconciliation Hoodoo Products and Hoodoo Spell ideas:

Reconciliation Oil

Reconciliation Oil is a versatile tool for many spells used to heal a broken relationship, mend feelings between people and bring back an estranged lover. Dress a pink candle carved with your name and your estranged lover's name, with Reconciliation Oil. Roll it through Reconciliation Powder and ring it with Reconciliation Herb Bath. Burn the candle in a holder on top of a photo of the two of you. Take the remnants and gather them together in a red flannel bag and carry it close to your heart or in your underwear to draw your ex back to your life and your home. You can dress the bag once a week with Reconciliation Oil to keep it strong.

Reconciliation Herb Bath

Reconciliation Herb Bath is great to use prior to performing any Reconciliation spells to amplify your power.  You can also take a Reconciliation Herb Bath before seeing your ex to make them forgive you and want to reconcile their relationship with you. Make a cup of Reconciliation Herb Bath and add it to the laundry when you wash your husband's clothes to rekindle the passion in your marriage when it has grown cold. You can also wash your sheets in Reconciliation Herb Bath to make your estranged lover come back and share your bed once again. Reconciliation Herb Bath also makes a good herb sprinkle to ring candles burned in Reconciliation Spells.

Reconciliation Powder

Reconciliation Powder is a wonderful way to affect your estranged lover and heal a broken relationship without the knowing. Dust letters with Reconciliation Powder and mail them to your ex. When they touch the letter the powder will affect them and make them want to reconcile with you and be in a relationship with you once again. Powder pink candles that have been dressed with Reconciliation Oil with some Reconciliation Powder before burning them in reconciliation spells. You can also sprinkle Reconciliation Powder where your estranged lover will walk over it to affect him through his feet and make him want to walk back into your life.

Reconciliation Mojo Bag

A Reconciliation Mojo Bag is a powerful charm to carry to heal a broken relationship, mend hurt feelings and reunite you with your estranged partner. Carry a Reconciliation Mojo Bag when you are going to see your ex or communicate with them, to soften hearts, soften minds and make you both want to heal any rifts between the two of you. Place a Reconciliation Mojo Bag hidden in a box under your bed to rekindle the passion between you and your spouse when the relationship has run cold. Wear a Reconciliation Mojo Bag until your lover comes back to you and remember to feed it once a week by dabbing a bit of Reconciliation Oil on it to keep it strong.

Reconciliation Spell Kit

Reconciliation Spell Kit has everything you need to cast a powerful Reconciliation Jar Spell. This kit includes Reconciliation Oil, a pink candle, a screw-top jar, Reconciliation Herb Bath, Reconciliation Powder, and all of the items needed along with complete instructions. Upon casting the spell you'll have your own Reconciliation Jar Spell that you can continue to work in perpetuity by burning pink candles dressed with Reconciliation Oil on top of the jar every Monday, Wednesday and Friday while praying Psalm 32. This is a great value for those looking to work long-term Reconciliation Spells.

Reconciliation Candle - Setting of Lights

A Reconciliation Candle - Setting of Lights is great for bringing back an estranged partner, healing a broken relationship or rekindling the passion in a relationship that has grown cold. We will dress, bless and burn a Reconciliation Candle for you on Dr. E's altar (candles typically last about 5 days). Once your candle has finished burning we will write up a candle burn report and email it to you with any signs and interpretations of the candle's burn. We recommend sticking to one setting of lights per month as to not overload the situation.

Reconciliation hoodoo products are perfect for mending a broken relationship, bringing back an estranged lover and rekindling the passion in a relationship that has cooled off. Before you use any Reconciliation products or try any Reconciliation spell I highly recommend you read the article Things Every Reconciliation Client Should Consider.

The Reconciliation Jar Spell

Reconciliation is one of the most common requests I get from my clients. It is also one of the more difficult and unpredictable types of magica out there. Reconciliation is always highly dependent upon many factors including the emotional states of both people involved and their environments. Remember, with reconciliation spell work you are healing hearts, softening minds and repairing major damage that has been done. It is SLOW STEADY WORK. Get the thought that it will turn around quickly out of your mind right now, because you'll only cause yourself unnecessary stress and turmoil over the situation. It must be approached with a calm and confident mind, and with faith in God that your situation can be healed.

There are other special considerations when doing any Reconciliation Spell work. Check out this article I wrote on the Hoodoo Crossroads Blog about Reconciliation Spells: Things that Every Client Should Keep in Mind.

The Reconciliation Jar Spell
This spell is something that I can perform for you as part of an extended Rootworking Consultation, or you can purchase the Reconciliation Spell Kit from ConjureDoctor.com and do it yourself. It's a complete kit that has everything you'll need to work this spell.

This includes:

• 1 packet of Reconciliation Herb Bath


• 1 bottle of Reconciliation Oil


• 1 pink jumbo candle


• 1 screw-top glass jar


• 1 packet of Reconciliation Powder


• 1 packet of herbs used in reconciliation spell work

In order to do this spell, you'll need personal concerns from your ex. For the most effective spell, you'll want a sample of their sexual fluids or blood. You will also need a sample of your own personal concerns to match theirs. Here is a list of effective personal concerns you can use from strongest to weakest:

• semen, menstrual blood or vaginal fluids


• hair


• fingernail clippings


• urine, mucus or other bodily fluids


• foot tracks


• dirty, worn clothing, or other item that was worn against the skin


• handwriting sample


• a photograph

Start by taking a magical bath with Reconciliation Herb Bath. Prepare the bath by adding the packet of herb bath to a cup and pouring boiling water over it. Allow it to sit for about 10 minutes, then strain out the herbs and add this herbal infusion into a big washtub or basin full of bath-temperature water. Take this into the bathroom and light two white candles - tea lights will do - and place the on either side of the tub so you cross through them when you get in and out. Disrobe and enter the bathtub. Pray Psalm 32 and pour the bath over your body from your feet up to your head - to draw your lover back to you. Make sure to catch some of the used bathwater by either plugging the tub or standing over a bowl to catch some of the water that runs off of you. Exit the bath and air dry. Dress your body with some of the Reconciliation Oil and put on some clean clothing. Take the bit of used bathwater outside and toss it over your shoulder toward the east then return home without looking back.

Next, take the jar and rub a little Reconciliation Oil along the inside. Next take the pink candle and carve your name into it, along with your ex-lover's name. On the other side of the candle carve "Reconciled Love". Dress the candle with some Reconciliation Oil by wiping the oil toward you as you call your ex-lover's name aloud, commanding them to soften their heart, soften their mind and come back to you to repair the love between you. Now sprinkle a little bit of the Reconciliation Powder on the candle and set it aside.

Place your ex-lover's personal concerns in the jar, along with yours. If you use his hair, use a bit of your hair as well, for example. If you can tie the two samples of personal concerns together with pink thread, that would be even more effective. Add in the packet of reconciliation herbs into the jar, calling to the spirits of the herbs to heal the love between you, to soften your hearts, minds and spirits to forgive the transgressions of the past and draw toward one another once again. Add a pinch of Reconciliation Powder into the jar as well.

Holding the jar up to your mouth, pray Psalm 32 into the jar and call out your ex-lover's name three times saying "Return to me. Forgive me. Love me once again. You cannot wait to see me again. You cannot wait to hear me again. You cannot wait to smell me again. You cannot wait to touch me again. You cannot wait to taste me again. For I am the loveliest person you have ever had and you and I belong together. I pray this in Jesus' name. Amen!" Then cap the jar.

Place the jar on a ceramic plate. Take the dressed and prepared pink candle and melt the bottom of it, and stick it to the top of the jar. Light the candle and pray over it while the candle takes flame. Pray for your ex - pray using their full name - for them to come back to you and love you once again. Let the candle burn all the way down.

Once it is done burning. Take the jar (covered in wax) and bury it as close as possible near your front door to draw your ex-lover back to your doorstep. You can bury it in a potted plant if you don't have earth near your doorstep. You can also hide it in a container near the door. As an alternative, you can put the jar under your bed to draw your ex back to your bed once again. Leave that jar there to do it's magic. The rest of the Reconciliation Powder can be used to dress letters or presents that you send to your ex, or it can be sprinkled on the ground where they will walk across it. Make sure to call them by name as you sprinkle it.

After the spell has been done it's important to let your ex know that you have an open line of communication either by speaking regularly or contacting them on the phone from time to time. Don't be pushy or oppressive or you'll drive them away and ruin the work you are doing.

Because reconciliation work is slow you should see results by the end of three months. If nothing has happened and your ex continued to want to be away from you, then you might want to look into some Cut Away work to heal your heart and move past the relationship.

Reconciliation Spells - What Every Client Should Consider

I just wrote an article over at the Hoodoo Crossroads Blog on Reconciliation Spells and things that every client should consider. Go check it out!

Making Reconciliation Spells REALLY Work

Hands-down, the most common client request for hoodoo is for a reconciliation spell. This is no real surprise when you think about what a vast and complex landscape human emotions can be, and how challenging it is to make a relationship really work in this modern age. We are taught dysfunctional ways to behave in relationships from television, glamor magazines, movies and even from our friends and family. So when the relationship goes sour, or breaks up all together, it makes sense to turn to a conjure doctor to fix the situation.

This, however, is a misconception. Yes, a conjure doctor can help you mend your relationship. Yes, we can help soften hearts and open minds and get the two of you to reconcile. BUT, contrary to popular opinion, we are NOT miracle workers.

So how, then, should you approach reconciliation spell work in order to get effective results with your hoodoo? Let me share what I've learned over the years from personal and professional experience.

Communication is Number ONE!

My teacher taught me that reconciliation spells are much more likely to success if the people are talking to one another. I'm going to take that one step further and say that reconciliation spells will ONLY succeed if the people involved are talking to one another. Otherwise, there really is little chance for the two of you to come back together and heal the wounds of the past. That means, tuck your tail, apologize for what went wrong and genuinely try to mend things. Let go of resentments, start anew and give the other person the benefit of the doubt. And if it has been longer than two years since you've spoken to the individual your chances for success are pretty much none. But, for those of you who are speaking to your lover, here's a great spell to get the lines of communication going.

Personal Letter Dressed with Powders for Reconciliation

You'll need:

• 1 packet of Success and Eloquence Powder
• 1 packet of Reconciliation Powder
• 1 hand-written letter or card to your lover

Write a letter to your ex sincerely apologizing to them if you've wronged them, or forgiving them if they've wronged you. Be heart-felt and honest and don't blame them for anything. Just focus on the love you have for one another and how much you miss the great times you had together. Sign the letter or card and make sure the ink has dried.

Flip the letter or card over and sprinkle some Success and Eloquence Powder and some Reconciliation Powder on the card. As you do so, call out your ex's name and pray to God in your own words for his heart to be softened, for his mind to be opened and for him to remember the love you have together, and feel desire in his heart to call you and speak with you in return. Now run your four fingers down the card in wavy lines - like snake tracks - and say "in the name of the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit, AMEN!" Shake off the excess powder, then give the letter a flick with your finger to snap off any residue. Fold up the letter, put it in an envelope and seal the envelope with a little dab of your urine. Mail the letter to your lover and when he opens it, he'll be dominated by your urine, affected by the Reconciliation Powder to want to be with you again, and then compelled by the Success and Eloquence Powder to want to talk to you.

Humility and Sincerity Are KEY!

All too often, I have clients come to me and say "I want my boyfriend that broke up with me back, but I want HIM to make the first move and I want HIM to apologize to me!" or some variation of that theme. Let me tell you right now that the reason you two haven't reconciled your love is because OF YOU! Stubbornness and pride serve no role in reconciliation work. Let go of your pride, let go of your stubborn need to be right, and stop this whole cat and mouse game of not talking to him until he talks to you, etc. All it does is feed into the dysfunctional mind games that Hollywood have taught us are a part of any relationship. I'm here to tell you that the sooner you drop that behavior and those requirements the more likely you are going to succeed in getting your partner back.

Forgiveness Goes Two Ways

In order to go from break up to make up, you'll need to master the art of apologies and forgiveness. But remember that forgiveness goes two ways - and by that I mean that you have to forgive the other person AND FORGIVE YOURSELF for what happened. Holding on to guilt or resentment are only ways of closing off your heart and will ultimately fight against any positive spell outcome.

I always recommend to my clients that they should take up some kind of journaling or way of processing their emotions. Shoot, even therapy is something we should all sign up for after a break up - it helps you work through your feelings, learn your lessons, grow and evolve instead of just placing blame, vilifying the other person and walking away from the relationship with nothing to show for it.

Make your journal a magical one. Get yourself a nice spiral bound notebook from the local book store. Into it, place a photo of you and your ex together when you were happy. Then, you can use some Love Uncrossing Products to unravel the emotional knots that you built up in your relationship using the following spell:

Dr. E.'s Love Uncrossing Spell

You'll need:

• 7 or 13 packets of Love Uncrossing Herb Bath (depending on how much you have to work out)
• 1 half red/half black jumbo love uncrossing candle
• 1 bottle of Love Uncrossing Oil

You will perform this spell every afternoon or evening for 7 consecutive days. Make a strong infusion of 1 package of Love Uncrossing Herb Baths by pouring boiling water over the herbs in a coffee cup. Allow the herbs to sit for about 10 minutes. Strain out the herbs. Draw yourself a nice bathtub full of water. Add in the cup of infused liquid to the bath.

Now, carefully using a knife, cut the tip off of the candle, turn it upside down and carve a new tip on the butt of the candle - digging out the wick so you'll be able to light it. On the black half of the candle carve in mirror-writing "Remove my condition". On the red part carve in normal writing "I am worthy of love". Dress the entire candle with Love Uncrossing Oil - stroke away from you on the black part, stroke toward you on the red part. Place this in a candle holder and set it next to the bathtub. Light the candle.

Disrobe and enter the bath. As you soak in the bathtub, state "Wash me with hyssop and I shall be clean in the name of Jesus Christ, AMEN!" Now relax in the tub and mentally go through any of the suffering, anger or resentment from the break up. Focus on forgiving yourself and forgiving your ex. See if you discover any emotional behavioral patterns that need to be healed or changed. Write these down in your journal during and after the bath is done. Finally, imagine all of the pain and anger being leeched out of your body by the herbs in the bath, and then imagine glowing pink light entering your body - replacing the resentment with love, the anger with acceptance and the distrust with loving trust.

When you are done, stand up, cross your arms across your chest and then quickly uncross them by wiping diagonally from shoulder to hip across your chest saying aloud "reMOVE this condition from me!" - repeat that three times. Step out of the bath and lightly towel off. Scoop up a cupful of the used bath water and allow the rest to drain away.

Once you are dry, anoint your feet, wrists, neck and heart with Love Uncrossing Oil. Dress in light colored clothes and walk to the crossroads (4-way crossroad). Toss that used bath water over your left shoulder into the intersection toward the east saying "AMEN!" and walk away without looking back. When you get home, pinch or snuff out the candle and use it for the next bath.

Over the course of the week, keep your journal with you and write down any thoughts or realizations that come to you about your relationship, your negative behaviors or patterns or lessons you've learned. The effect of those baths will last up to and beyond a month.

Reconciliation Spells Take Time

Sometimes clients think that a reconciliation spell will be a "one shot, bang, and you're fixed" kind of job. I'm here to tell you that reconciliation spell work in a long haul, and it is a slow and steady progress that you're looking for. Trust takes a long time to grow, and one moment to destroy. You now have to go through the process of rebuilding trust - and that takes time, honesty and communication. Reconciliation spells should aim at softening the hearts and opening the minds of those involved.

Reconciliation Honey Jar Spell

This spell uses sweeteners to soften up their attitude toward you and to remember the sweetness you had together.

You'll need:

• A jar of honey with a metal lid
• A photo of you
• A photo of your ex
• 3 gold-eyed needles
• 2 balm of gilead buds that are stuck together
• orange peel
• 1 package of Reconciliation Powder
• 1 bottle of Reconciliation Oil
• 9 pink candles

Take the photo of your ex and put a dab of Reconciliation oil on each corner and the middle of the photo. Do the same with your photo. Now put a dab of honey on the ex's photo's mouth. Then stick your photo to it so that the mouths are touching. As you do so state aloud your ex's name and say "You remember the sweetness of my kisses and we only speak sweet words to one another from now on!"

Then stick the three needles through the papers (in and out to hold them) so they are stuck together. Make sure the three needles are parallel. As you do so, state "We are joined at the hip, joined at the head and joined at the heart. In Jesus' name I call you back to me for it is our destiny to be together again! AMEN!"

Now push the papers down into the honey and when you pull your finger out it will have honey on it. Lick the honey off and say "As this honey is sweet on my tongue, so too shall I be sweet on your mind, sweet on your tongue and sweet in your heart!" Add in the balm of gilead, the orange peel and three pinches of Reconciliation Powder. Cap off the jar.

Every Monday, Wednesday and Friday, you will do the following: Take 1 pink candle and carve "reconcile our love" onto the candle. Dress it with Reconciliation Oil - stroking the oil toward you. Dust it with Reconciliation Powder. Then melt the butt of the candle enough that you can stick it to the lid of the honey jar. Light the candle and let it burn all the way down. As it burns pause for a moment and pray to God to illuminate your ex's mind, to draw him back to you and to remind him of the good times, the love and the wonderful joy you shared together. Do this for three consecutive weeks and you should see steady improvement in your ex's disposition toward you. You can continue to work the jar with pink candles until they return to you if you like.

Draw Them Back - Don't TORMENT Them

One of the keys to really winning in the arena of love is to become "magnetic" instead of being "electric". The best way I can describe this is by observing those two phenomena. Magnets just naturally draw things to them by an indescribable, invisible but powerful force. Electricity sparks, lashes out, strikes and jolts. People who are confident in themselves, love themselves and see a relationship as an addition to their life are magnetic - they draw lovers to them and they are desirable to be around. People who lack confidence in themselves, don't think they are worthy of love or limit their love to "he's the only one that will ever love me" are electric - they cling like static to others out of desperation, their love is obsessive, unhealthy, sharp, spikey and jolting. You should strive to cultivate magnetic appeal with reconciliation spells - not electrical lashing out.

I've seen a real pattern, lately, where clients approach me asking for The Intranquility Spell against their ex to bring him back - right off the bat. This immediately raises red flags for me as a rootworker because it tells me they are being "electric" not "magnetic" and their chances for reconciliation are very low unless they change their tactics.

I will say, once and for all here, that The Intranquility Spell is not the solution for reconciliation in most cases. Its uses are rare and selective and it really only works on certain types of people. Usually it results in tormenting the lover which ends up driving them mad, not back to you. Again... change your tactics. Try a honey jar, or a lodestone spell - but don't beat them over the head or you'll only drive them away.

Reconciliation Spell + Cut out a Meddling Person

Often, a meddling party is interjecting themselves into a relationship that has fallen apart, or is starting to suffer. This "meddling party" syndrome can pose a real problem for people trying to work reconciliation spells to bring their partners back to them. Here's a great little spell I've done in the past to not only cut out that third interfering person, but also to reconcile the two lovers who have grown apart.

Reconciliation Spell + Cutting Out a Third Person

This is primarily an elaborate candle spell with a few extra props added in for good measure. Here are the supplies you'll need:

• Scissors
• Hot Foot Powder
• Reconciliation Oil
• GTFO! Oil
• Fiery Wall of Protection Oil
• Van Van Oil
• Two pink figural candles of the appropriate genders for the two lovers
• One black figural candle (or a regular candle will work) for the third meddling person
• Two 4" square pieces of paper
• a pen
• a sharp pointed tool to carve the candles

Step 1 - Prepare the Name Papers

Take one of the pieces of paper and write one lover's name across it 7 times in a row. Turn the paper clockwise 1/4 turn and then cross that person's name with the second lover's name 7 times. Now draw a shield with two inter-locked hearts on it at each of the four corners of the paper (to protect their love). Dab the paper on all four corners and in the middle with Reconciliation Oil. Fold the paper toward you in half. Turn 1/4 turn clockwise and repeat. Do that one last time for a total of three folds. Set it aside.

Take the second piece of paper and write the interfering person's name on the paper 9 times. Turn the paper 1/4 turn counter-clockwise and write GO AWAY NOW! on it 9 times crossing their name. Next draw arrows point outward from the name matrix on all four corners of that paper. Dab the paper with GTFO! Oil on all four corners and in the center. Fold the paper in half away from you. Turn the paper 1/4 turn counter-clockwise and fold again. Repeat one more time for a total of three folds. Place this paper aside.

Step 2 - Carve and Dress the Candles

Carve one lover's name on the candle of the appropriate gender. On the back of the candle carve "Reconciled love, protected love". Do the same with the other candle, carving the second lover's name in it along with "Reconciled love, protected love". Dress the candles by putting a few drops of Reconciliation Oil on your fingers and stroking the oil onto the candle toward yourself (to draw your lover to you). Place both figural candles on top of the name paper, side by side (so the wax from the two candles will melt together) facing in the same direction.

Now take the black figural candle and carve the interfering person's name on it. On the back of the candle carve "GO AWAY NOW!" Dress this candle with GTFO! Oil by stroking the oil away from you (to drive the person out of their lives). Place this candle about a foot away back-to-back from the couple candles (they should be facing away from the black candle) on top of its appropriate name paper. Sprinkle Hot Foot Powder on the feet of the black figural candle saying "Just as this burns your feet so shall it light a fire under your ass to drive you out of their lives forever! AMEN!"

Protecting The Couple

To protect the reconciling love of the couple, put some Fiery Wall of Protection Oil on your hands and draw a circle of oil around the paired couple of candles. As you do this state "Surrounded in the fierce protection of God, and protected from all evil and interference, walk on to your new lives together, protected in love and protected in life! AMEN!"

Cutting the Person Out!

Take the pair of scissors and dress the cutting edges of the blade with Van Van Oil. Hold the scissors up to heaven and say "By the mighty blade of God the Father, The Son and The Holy Spirit I CUT YOU OUT OF THEIR LIVES FOREVER! AMEN!" Set the scissors in an open position with the cutting blades facing the black candle.

Light the couple candles, then the black candles and allow them to burn. When the black candle is half burned, powerfully exclaim "Walk away from this situation as it involves you NOT! Run away from this couple as you serve them NOT! GET AWAY from this relationship, for it includes you NOT! In the highest power of God the Father, The Son and The Holy Spirit, I banish you from the Eden of their love forever and cast you out into the shadows with your kind, where you shall gnash your teeth and wail in solitude forever! AMEN!" Then sprinkle some Hot Foot Powder into the flame of the black candle. Allow it to burn itself all the way down.

Planting the Various Parts of the Spell

Take the remnants of the black candle (any wax, and the name paper). Wrap it up in tin foil, go to the nearest river that runs out of town and toss it over your left shoulder into the water. As you do so, state "Run out of town, Run out of the state, Run out of their lives forever! AMEN!" The meddler will now go away, moving into another town, or just as simple as getting out of the couple's lives by whatever means.

Take the remains of the couple candles (the wax should have melted together into one puddle) as well as the name paper. Wrap it in pink cloth and bury it under the front doorstep of the person who is trying to draw back their lover. The work is complete.

For an extra good measure, you could take a Spiritual Purification Herb Bath after the working to remove any negativity that might be around from the hot footing part of the spell.

Reconciliation Candle Spell

It seems to be a pretty common request at the moment, for women to contact me wanting to get their men back. Perhaps it's the difficult economic climate that makes us want to stick it out, or maybe it's just that love helps take our minds off of money? Regardless, there are many ways to perform reconciliation love work - in this posting I'll discuss a typical reconciliation candle spell. In the next posting I'll describe a more coercive reconciliation spell with an edge.

Reconciliation Setting of Lights
One of the simplest ways to reconcile love that has been wounded is to set a light to the situation. Here's how to do it.

Ingredients/Tools:

• 1 pink glass-encased candle
• A photo of you and your lover together
• A bottle of Reconciliation Oil
  
• A tiny pinch of rose petals
• Honey
  
• A pair of balm of gilead buds preferably attached
• A matched pair of lodestone grits, with a pinch of magnetic sand
• A bamboo skewer
• Tacky glue
• A pen
• A 4" x 4" square of paper
  

Instructions:
Take the photo of you two together and cut it out from the background so that only the two of you are on it. Put a very thin layer of glue on the back of the photo and affix it to the front of the glass encased candle. Next, take the 4" x 4" paper and write your lover's name 7 times on it, then turn the paper clockwise 90 degrees and write your name 7 times across his. Around this matrix of names, in one continual circle without lifting your pen, write "love me again" over and over to complete the circle. Go back and dot your "i"s. Anoint the paper in a 5-spot pattern (like the 5 side of a die) with Reconciliation Oil. Fold the paper toward you in half, turn it 90 degrees and fold in half toward you again, then repeat one more time. Tape this "name paper" to the bottom of the candle.

Now, using the bamboo skewer, being careful, poke 3 holes all the way down into the candle's wax. Into these holes, drip a few drops of Reconciliation Oil (less is better as it will cause burning problems if you flood it with oil). Place the two lodestone grits into the top of the candle, naming one after you, and the other after your lover. I like to state something like "As these lodestones are drawn to one another, so too does our eternal love draw us back together again". Feed the lodestones with a pinch of magnetic sand. Add in a pinch of the rose petals, the balm of gilead buds and a tiny drop of honey (tasting the honey as you drop it in, stating "As this honey is sweet to my tongue, so am I sweet to your heart, your mind and your loins!".

Now hold the candle up to the Lord and pray over it. Call to your lover BY NAME, that he look past his anger or hurt and remember the love he has for you. Call for him to return by your will to love you once again, and that you will do right by him. Pray this in the name of "the Father, the Son and the Holy Spirit!" Then seal the candle by tapping it three times on the counter top.

Light the candle and allow it to burn all the way down. Take note of any signs you might receive about his return, and keep in mind that reconciliation spells only work if you are in contact with your lover, so make sure to communicate with him once again.